Cheating….signs you are being cheated on and the feelings that follow

Everyone who reads this has either been cheated on, knows someone who has been cheated on or has suspected that they have been cheated on. There were quite a few people asking on my last relationship post for some advice about cheating. What are the signs? Has it ever happened to you? Well, you asked and now I will share some of my knowledge from first hand experience. In this post I will list the three signs that I noticed when I suspected my girlfriend was cheating on my. These signs are some of the same that others who have been cheated on noticed as well.

As I mentioned above, there were three main signs that lead me to believe that my girlfriend was cheating, which ended up being true. They are as follows:

  1. He/She seems more distant
  2. The calls and texts are not as frequent or as long as they used to be
  3. He/She is always irritated  with anything that you are doing

I can say that after I found out that my girlfriend had been cheating on me, I felt absolutely crushed. I think there are stages of recovery and it is perfectly normal to feel angry, sad, lonely, used, abandoned. Just know that you were not the one who cheated or did anything wrong. Although it takes time to heal, you have to move forward. Learning to trust someone new might be hard, but take it slow and you might be surprised to see how well a new relationship can develop!

It just so happens that I caught a quick minute of the Dr. Phil show today and the topic was cheating partners! If you’d like, he has a quiz posted on his website about jealousy and suspecting whether your partner is cheating or not. Check it out here.

I am curious  if you agree with these signs? What other signs have you seen?  For those of you that have been cheated on, I would like to hear if you were able to forgive them and how you officially found out they were cheating.

If your significant other is showing any of these signs, please do not jump to the conclusion that they are cheating. This is not a full-proof way to tell if your boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating on you.  I have never cheated on anyone and am glad that my current girlfriend is someone who I trust with all of my heart.  I hope none of you have to go through this and find the one that makes your heart flutter every time you look into her eyes.

As always comments are encouraged!

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19 Responses to Cheating….signs you are being cheated on and the feelings that follow

  1. emiliefisheraffair says:

    texting and deleting, stories don’t add up…

  2. kate2230 says:

    I’ve been cheated on and I noticed the same signs. Most of the time your gut feeling is right, but it is still good to communicate rather than jump to conclusions.

  3. Communication is key in any relationship, I 100% agree with you!

  4. Carol Teagarten says:

    Hey! Another relationship post! This one is kind of depressing…I don’t like cheating! I’ve been cheated on too and it stinks!

    Sorry you had toe xperience this too.

  5. Carol, yes this post was requested last night. More happy relationship posts will be coming, but I thought I would share my experience with this more upsetting part in the “broken” relationships.

  6. C M Tilly says:

    Hey, this is a cool post (as cool as the topic can be!). I have actually been on both sides of cheating. At first I cheated and then in another relationship I was cheated on. I’ve laerned my lesson! Cheating hurts to much.

    I have to say that I definitely started to ignore my girlfriend and got annoyed with her quickly when I was cheating on her. Also, we stopped being intimate. I would say that would be another sign.

  7. Zane says:

    Hey, saw your post yesterday about relationships. Looking for some different advice. Not about cheating, but just about dating girls in general. How do you keep your girl?

  8. Bobby C says:

    Hey man, I’ve been here before. Cool blog. I’m suspicious of my girlcheating. I’ve gone through her phone and her purse. The jealousness and suspicion is making me do things I never thought I’d do. She has definitely shown all of the signs in your post. Maybe I should just confront her?

  9. Kellsey Black says:

    Who requested cheating? Us ladies requested more information about your current relationship! BRING IT ON! We need our romance fix!

  10. Zane, I’m not sure how you are treating your girl if she is leaving you or you are leaving her? In a relationship try to make sure you do not get into a routine of activities so don’t seclude yourself to only going out with a certain group of friends. Make sure you both have weekends or days where you can spend time with your own set of friends and try listening to what she has to say. You don’t have to be romantic 24/7 but try bringing her flowers every once in awhile with a nice note on how she makes you feel! If you need more advice let me know and I will see if I can come up with a better list for you.

  11. Zane says:

    Well in past relationships I’ve just not had great luck. I always make it to a certain point and then it seems to fall apart. We hang out and watch movies. We drink with my friends and stuff. Not treating her bad. Just don’t know why it never works out.

    I can say I am not much of a romantic. I take her out sometimes and we hang. What doyou and your girlfriend do?

    • Zane, I noticed that you never put in there that you hang out with her friends or do anything that she wants to do. Even if your not that much of a romantic you could plan one night every week or two where you have a planned date with just the two of you doing different activities. I obviously don’t know where your relationships “fall apart” but try doing more than just hanging out with your friends.

    • kate2230 says:

      Zane, I agree with John here. You only mentioned that you do stuff with your friends. Maybe try getting her to have a girl’s night every once in a while too. Sometimes you need time apart. Like John said, routine’s get old quick. Keep things interesting and it is OK to not be together all the time.

      Even though you say you aren’t much of a romantic, there are still just nice gestures that might mean the world to someone. Try planning a date and not telling her what you’re doing. Just surprise her with something. Even a simple card with a note would do the trick! At least, for me!

      Good luck!

  12. Greg Landers says:

    I’ve never been cheat on…as far as I know!

  13. Caterina Margolise says:

    Good post, but like they said up there, a bit depressing. It is good advise for those who are suspecting a cheater!

    I just feel for those who have been through this. I have and I can say it is unpleasant! I think as a girl, you just get that “feeling”.

  14. Brit K says:

    I’ve been cheated on before. It is definitely a horrible feeling. Another sign I saw from my boyfriend is that when we did hang out, we always stayed in. We stopped going out with friends and he refused to bring me around his family. It was like our relationship was a secret. I knew something was up then!

  15. Jess Landers says:

    I have been the one who has cheated before. I’m not proud of it, but I have to say that the signs listed abocve are similar to what I did to him.

    I’ve learned from my mistakes and know not to do that anymore.

  16. Tammy says:

    I to have been cheated on; once by my ex-husband and twice by my second. I honestly can’t say what happened. I know I was young with my first husband and thought some how revenge would fix it. Boy, was I wrong!! It was ok for him, but I was the biggest hooch alive. My second and current, somehow we made it through the first time, for years. But, this last time was just a couple weeks befor Christmas. It has been difficult, to say the least. I don’t believe anything he says. And even less of what I think I see or hear. Been contemplating leaving for a while now. We have been together for almost 15 years, and married for 8. I sometimes feel like leaving is best, because I don’t know if I will ever trust him again. I almost crack up when he says, “trust me”. He will get mad if I want to discuss what happened to get to that point. But, I feel that although I do get angry, talking about it will help. Thanks for letting me vent.

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